

Based on the external environment – We are often compelled to create these goals based on what other people are doing in and around us. If you are studying in grade 12, then university is your goal. If you are getting out of university, then a job is your goal. Of course, you have some flexibility in deciding which university or what job!
Goals are overwhelming – The problem with goals is that they are overwhelming. Dreaming about starting a company and making it big may resonate with you all the time. However, the moment you start thinking of getting into action mode, you are likely to get anxious about all that needs to be done. Funding, business plan, hiring, technical support, investments, content creation, marketing – words like these are likely to flash in your head. What is more likely to happen is that you will find an excuse that helps you explain to yourself and others why you have not moved into action.
Helpful only on successful achievement – The thing is that goals give us a good feeling only when we achieve them. There is no joy in starting a new company. The joy comes only if it brings in a certain amount of revenue that you define as success. There is no joy in playing a sport. There is joy only if you win. There is no joy in running on the treadmill or on the track. There is only joy when you see the scales drop your weight by a few kilos. The dopamine kicks in only when you see the results.
Harmful when not met – Setting goals can indeed be harmful if we do not achieve them. The actual achievement of the goals that we set out to achieve is not really in our total control. When we create large goals, we also sacrifice a lot of our current time and energy towards something that is not guaranteed. The dejection and feeling of being a loser that follows can be very difficult to manage. The extent to which one feels dejected is the value that one assigns to that goal.
- Small goals get started and more often than not, achieved
- Small goals do not scare the hell out of us
- Small goals make us feel that we are more in control (and that feeling of control has been associated with happiness levels in research)
- Making a list of small goals and ticking them off, one at a time can boost confidence like nothing else
- Small goals remind us that we are able and capable
- Small goals help us stay in the here and now and keep us away from building castles in the air

Step 1 – Set in a comfortable place and visualize your dream as vividly as you can. Be grounded and calm when you attempt it. Think of as many aspects of how things are when you have achieved your goal. Who is with you, what do you hear, what are people saying about you, how are you feeling, what do you see, what do you hear, where are you, and as many other things that you can think of.
Step 2 – Write it down!
Step 3 –Think and plan the things you need to do to get there and the things you need to avoid. This is a general list of the things you need to do and not a drill-down of specific. It does not have to be specific, time-bound, or measurable.
Step 4 – Once you know the general direction in which you want to move, park the plan.
Step 5 – Focus on today and what you can do today.
- the visualization serves as a guiding light for you to operate on a daily basis
- you do not say yes to opportunities that take you away from your long-term goal
- you move in the general direction of your goal
- you stay flexible and adaptable and able to react to the external circumstances as they present themselves
- you are not fazed by unexpected events