Reframing is a powerful tool that is used in psychological healing by many practitioners. Call it whatever, you want, it is but a new and helpful perspective of seeing the facts in a new light. It is easy to reframe when you are an aware, conscious, and open individual. If you can question your own beliefs with an open mind, you can then unearth new ways of looking at the same facts that may otherwise be causing you some discomfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Explained like this, reframing does not seem to be a tough thing to achieve. However, when one is amidst chaos and drowning in emotions and incessant thoughts based on past experiences, it seems impossible to question those very ideas that have become set in our own minds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Additionally, there is also the challenge of actually changing the mindset and the self-talk even after one has cognitively accepted that the situation can be seen in a new light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Reframing is especially helpful in situations where we are stuck with looking at the situation from a single perspective that we assume as real and binding. Let us take for example, the kind of things we tell ourselves when we engage in negative self-talk. We often find ourselves telling ourselves what we cannot do by labeling ourselves with some adjective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I struggle to choose the many things I have heard my clients tell themselves that are not helpful. But let me choose \u2018I am always making mistakes\u2019 as one that is relatively common. When you choose to reframe this statement, you ask some very prying questions to yourself in the process of doing so:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This phase in which you question your thoughts or labeling negative self-talk helps in higher levels of belief when it comes to the reframing. If you feel that you have the power to believe (for indeed it is a power that is not given it\u2019s due these days), then you need not go through this cognitive exercise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The first step in trying to reframe negative labels that you give yourself is to arrive at a perspective that will help you look at yourself or the situation more positively. This might be tough if you are completely taken in by what you have been telling yourself for years. It feels as if it is impossible to cast off the layers of belief and conviction that we have so meticulously created around us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, you have to try and keep trying. Once you attain the ability of looking at a negative label and ascribing a positive angle to it and then believing it with all your heart and existence, it will seem like the most natural thing to you. In fact, you may even begin to wonder how and why you thought otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some of the most common labels that we give ourselves that keep us from attaining our potential have been listed below along with a possible reframing that you can try. It is also a good idea to create your own reframing statement, something that is closer to your own truth and something that feels easier to accept and believe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I failed<\/strong><\/span> \u2013 I have a new opportunity for a new start<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m always making errors<\/strong><\/span> \u2013 I have learned a lot of lessons<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m fickle-minded<\/strong><\/span> \u2013 I go with the flow<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m stubborn <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I have a mind of my own<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m stubborn<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I do not get influenced<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m impulsive<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I go with the flow<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m lazy<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I listen to my body and give myself the time I need<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m too sensitive<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I understand my emotions and am not afraid to show them<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m obnoxious <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I don\u2019t say things that people want me to say and I speak my mind<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m dishonest<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I choose compassion and humility over being blunt<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m blunt<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I have the courage to say what is in my mind<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m rigid<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I don\u2019t give up easily<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I get angry<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I have a keen sensitivity towards injustice<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m bossy <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I have the skill to direct people towards achieving common goals<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m picky<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I have clear priorities and I exercise them<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m stingy<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I have a balanced approach to spending, saving, and planning<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m self-indulgent <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I love myself<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m self-centered<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I have boundaries<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m pompous <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I am proud of who I am and not afraid to show the world<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m unlucky<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I work hard to get what I deserve<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m stupid<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I am intelligent in a way that the world does not recognize yet<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m tired <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I give in my fullest each day<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m a freak\/weird <\/span><\/strong>\u2013 I have a mind of my own and not afraid to be who I am<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m a nerd<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I passionately dive into what I love and follow it through, no matter what<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m selfish<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 I can only love or give another when I love myself first<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Before starting to put this reframing into practice, you should have done the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Once you have your reframed statement, you can practice it in various ways to make it a reality for yourself. To bring about the mindset shift, try any or all of these:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Loving yourself completely requires you to love every aspect of yourself and that requires looking at yourself with compassion, understanding, empathy, and a positive mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you feel that you need help questioning yourself and that a cognitive interview with a trained professional will help, reach out<\/a> and we can work towards creating your own reframed statement that allows you to explore and achieve your dreams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Feature image attribution: Roy Harryman<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Reframing is a powerful tool used by coaches and psychologists. 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